Female Skepticism
| posted by Attractology Sunday, December 16, 2007 | 0 Comments |
What's happening everyone. I want to just go over a specific instance that I encountered last night from a girl who was skeptical about the game. Here it is.
I was confronted by a girl last night .. a cute girl. As it turned out she was the new girlfriend of my good friend we'll call Jay who I hadn't seen in a few weeks. She seemed sweet and there was an interesting almost silent chemistry between the two. Note:This guy is a 22 year old virgin that is amazingly fit and good looking. But he has always been socially distant and has a difficult time relating to people. Nonetheless it was refreshing to see a friend who hasn't had much luck with women finally meet, attract and date a very cool one.
Anyway so we are out at the bar just chatting up a few people we had met basically shooting the shit. Wasn't in full swing sarge mode because..well..it wasn't necessary. i had a blond (previous hook up) buying me drinks who was working another guy at the same time. Been there. done that. And I was enjoying the company of my friends. Out of the blue, Jay's girlfriend brings up Attractology in a passive aggressive subtle way. Apparently Jay (who is(was up till now)virgin, AFC) told her about his disdain for the game and learning how to attract using theory and models and what not. She, like him, have never really explored what the game is, they just both "hate it" regardless because it sounds unnatural and manipulative.
And so she started firing questions basically grounded in "why are you trying to mess with fate?" She asked about routines, theories, our credentials and came back a point of "well, Jay didn't have to do any of that." Ohh god, here we go again. For some reason, so many girls like to believe they are above the systems of human nature. They believe that for some reason, the exact way their particular situation worked out was based on a uniqueness that no others have even come close to attaining. The cosmos were simply aligned at just the right time.
As much as I want this to be true( and ohh god, I wish it was)I simply know that it is not. And as beautiful, unique and amazing a lot of past relationships have been, I still realize that there are evolutionary and biological undercurrents that permeate every part of them. Don't peg me wrong here. I'm not a robot. I'm empathetic. I love. I fall in love (too often probably). And I am more sensitive than I let people see. But it doesn't mean that I can deny evolution and science. Just like the game. We can choose to know about it or choose not to. But we have to accept it's existence. It is real. It does work. So that means you can either wait in patient frustration and be lonely or you can learn the game and attract women. I don't want to speak for everybody. But for me, luck is only preparation meeting opportunity. I can't wait for something that might happen or might not. I make things happen.
And so it went with our heavy, deep, psychological conversation on attraction. I didn't feel obligated the least bit to succumb to her demands for information. I answered them by choice. I find it intriguing and rewarding to enlighten people. And so I answered her adequately, and like every other single girl and guy who takes the time to learn what we're really teaching and researching. Her skeptical presumptions began to dissipate as her understanding increased. She learned that we aren't just out to "hook up" with girls. She learned we are good, fun loving people with noble intentions.
And she learned that we know more about the game of attraction then she had ever considered. By the end of our 20 minute conversation, her shield had been lowered. What's funny is that I've had these conversations before and they all end this way. Yet again and again some women find it so hard to accept that there was anything but fate involved in them being with their partner. I used to have this naivety and at times I wish I still did. But knowing the reasons "why" certain patterns emerge in attraction, flirting and dating, it's hard to look away.
Rather than accept that some guys get girls and others guys don't, I know, have seen, and experienced different. I know the game works and I know why it works. And it has enriched my life greatly.
---Happy holidays everyone. Don't eat too much. Did you know that the average American gains 7-10 pounds from the time Thanksgiving starts until new years? Crazy. So if your like me and enjoy these holidays as much as I do, work out so you can keep the pounds off. Cheers!
-Dthomas
I was confronted by a girl last night .. a cute girl. As it turned out she was the new girlfriend of my good friend we'll call Jay who I hadn't seen in a few weeks. She seemed sweet and there was an interesting almost silent chemistry between the two. Note:This guy is a 22 year old virgin that is amazingly fit and good looking. But he has always been socially distant and has a difficult time relating to people. Nonetheless it was refreshing to see a friend who hasn't had much luck with women finally meet, attract and date a very cool one.
Anyway so we are out at the bar just chatting up a few people we had met basically shooting the shit. Wasn't in full swing sarge mode because..well..it wasn't necessary. i had a blond (previous hook up) buying me drinks who was working another guy at the same time. Been there. done that. And I was enjoying the company of my friends. Out of the blue, Jay's girlfriend brings up Attractology in a passive aggressive subtle way. Apparently Jay (who is(was up till now)virgin, AFC) told her about his disdain for the game and learning how to attract using theory and models and what not. She, like him, have never really explored what the game is, they just both "hate it" regardless because it sounds unnatural and manipulative.
And so she started firing questions basically grounded in "why are you trying to mess with fate?" She asked about routines, theories, our credentials and came back a point of "well, Jay didn't have to do any of that." Ohh god, here we go again. For some reason, so many girls like to believe they are above the systems of human nature. They believe that for some reason, the exact way their particular situation worked out was based on a uniqueness that no others have even come close to attaining. The cosmos were simply aligned at just the right time.
As much as I want this to be true( and ohh god, I wish it was)I simply know that it is not. And as beautiful, unique and amazing a lot of past relationships have been, I still realize that there are evolutionary and biological undercurrents that permeate every part of them. Don't peg me wrong here. I'm not a robot. I'm empathetic. I love. I fall in love (too often probably). And I am more sensitive than I let people see. But it doesn't mean that I can deny evolution and science. Just like the game. We can choose to know about it or choose not to. But we have to accept it's existence. It is real. It does work. So that means you can either wait in patient frustration and be lonely or you can learn the game and attract women. I don't want to speak for everybody. But for me, luck is only preparation meeting opportunity. I can't wait for something that might happen or might not. I make things happen.
And so it went with our heavy, deep, psychological conversation on attraction. I didn't feel obligated the least bit to succumb to her demands for information. I answered them by choice. I find it intriguing and rewarding to enlighten people. And so I answered her adequately, and like every other single girl and guy who takes the time to learn what we're really teaching and researching. Her skeptical presumptions began to dissipate as her understanding increased. She learned that we aren't just out to "hook up" with girls. She learned we are good, fun loving people with noble intentions.
And she learned that we know more about the game of attraction then she had ever considered. By the end of our 20 minute conversation, her shield had been lowered. What's funny is that I've had these conversations before and they all end this way. Yet again and again some women find it so hard to accept that there was anything but fate involved in them being with their partner. I used to have this naivety and at times I wish I still did. But knowing the reasons "why" certain patterns emerge in attraction, flirting and dating, it's hard to look away.
Rather than accept that some guys get girls and others guys don't, I know, have seen, and experienced different. I know the game works and I know why it works. And it has enriched my life greatly.
---Happy holidays everyone. Don't eat too much. Did you know that the average American gains 7-10 pounds from the time Thanksgiving starts until new years? Crazy. So if your like me and enjoy these holidays as much as I do, work out so you can keep the pounds off. Cheers!
-Dthomas
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