Happy Holidays
| posted by Attractology Wednesday, December 26, 2007 | 0 Comments |
Happy Holidays everybody! I hope all of you had an amazing Christmas. Me, I got to spend Christmas with both my immediate and extended family. It was an amazing, awesome Christmas!
And when you get such an eclectic bunch together, it is always an interesting experience. The social dynamics at work were very apparent...at least to me.
Despite years and years and separate lives, some siblings still harbor envy and jealousy towards their closest kin. It is almost as if, they are so unsatisfied with their own life that they victimize themselves and think everyone is out to get them. And as I watched this scenario unfold with my single, 55 year old Aunt, I couldn't help but see it as a huge sign saying "NEVER BE LIKE THIS!!"
In the same sense, it reminded me of a time in my life years ago where I too felt
jealous over someone else's life. Particularly my younger brothers. I have two twin brothers who are two years younger than me and they are the ultimate naturals with women.
In high school (back when I was AFC) they would be hooking up with hoards of cute girls in my grade (and theirs) ...and I was not. You can imagine what this did to my psyche at the time. It tore it apart and ingrained a certain "life's not fair" attitude.
Fortunately, I was able to get over it immediately and snap myself back into my own reality where I was the focal point and not someone else.
And I've realized that victimization, envy, etc. are cancer for your game. A cancer that will grow and spread and limit nearly everything you want to accomplish in life whether it be meeting women or simply finding happiness.
There is always going to be someone that is smarter, better looking, stronger, more charismatic, richer than you. GET OVER IT! IT DOESN'T MEAN A FUCKING THING!!!!
So...
Welcome each day with a forgiving spirit. Forgive those who have wronged you and forgive those who haven't wronged you yet. Your wellbeing should never be dependent on others.
Feelings such as:
Jealousy
Hatred
Anger
Envy
will only cripple you in becoming an attractive man (or women). The sooner you can recognize you are doing this, the easier it will be to STOP. AND you are going to have to stop.
This effect is shown amazingly in the movie The Count of Monte Cristo where the privileged Fernand Mondego lets his jealousy manifest itself into vengeance against his childhood friend, Edmond Dontes. Without giving too much away, it inevitably leads to his own death. Perhaps this is an extreme scenario, but it nonetheless shows the incredible, negative power of victimization and wanting someone else's life.
Here is a little video montage of the movie I found on youtube:
Don't be like Mondego. Don't be like my 55 year old Aunt. Live in your world and live by your set of rules and expectations. Be happy with what you have and avoid pining over other's fortunes. Yours is the only one that really matters.
So there you have it. My Christmas ramblings! Have an amazing New Years. And on the subject, I will be posting some tips to get the girl on New Years...probably in the next two days.
Cheers
Dthomas
And when you get such an eclectic bunch together, it is always an interesting experience. The social dynamics at work were very apparent...at least to me.
Despite years and years and separate lives, some siblings still harbor envy and jealousy towards their closest kin. It is almost as if, they are so unsatisfied with their own life that they victimize themselves and think everyone is out to get them. And as I watched this scenario unfold with my single, 55 year old Aunt, I couldn't help but see it as a huge sign saying "NEVER BE LIKE THIS!!"
In the same sense, it reminded me of a time in my life years ago where I too felt
jealous over someone else's life. Particularly my younger brothers. I have two twin brothers who are two years younger than me and they are the ultimate naturals with women.
In high school (back when I was AFC) they would be hooking up with hoards of cute girls in my grade (and theirs) ...and I was not. You can imagine what this did to my psyche at the time. It tore it apart and ingrained a certain "life's not fair" attitude.
Fortunately, I was able to get over it immediately and snap myself back into my own reality where I was the focal point and not someone else.
And I've realized that victimization, envy, etc. are cancer for your game. A cancer that will grow and spread and limit nearly everything you want to accomplish in life whether it be meeting women or simply finding happiness.
There is always going to be someone that is smarter, better looking, stronger, more charismatic, richer than you. GET OVER IT! IT DOESN'T MEAN A FUCKING THING!!!!
So...
Welcome each day with a forgiving spirit. Forgive those who have wronged you and forgive those who haven't wronged you yet. Your wellbeing should never be dependent on others.
Feelings such as:
Jealousy
Hatred
Anger
Envy
will only cripple you in becoming an attractive man (or women). The sooner you can recognize you are doing this, the easier it will be to STOP. AND you are going to have to stop.
This effect is shown amazingly in the movie The Count of Monte Cristo where the privileged Fernand Mondego lets his jealousy manifest itself into vengeance against his childhood friend, Edmond Dontes. Without giving too much away, it inevitably leads to his own death. Perhaps this is an extreme scenario, but it nonetheless shows the incredible, negative power of victimization and wanting someone else's life.
Here is a little video montage of the movie I found on youtube:
Don't be like Mondego. Don't be like my 55 year old Aunt. Live in your world and live by your set of rules and expectations. Be happy with what you have and avoid pining over other's fortunes. Yours is the only one that really matters.
So there you have it. My Christmas ramblings! Have an amazing New Years. And on the subject, I will be posting some tips to get the girl on New Years...probably in the next two days.
Cheers
Dthomas
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