Happy Holidays everybody! I hope all of you had an amazing Christmas. Me, I got to spend Christmas with both my immediate and extended family. It was an amazing, awesome Christmas!

And when you get such an eclectic bunch together, it is always an interesting experience. The social dynamics at work were very apparent...at least to me.

Despite years and years and separate lives, some siblings still harbor envy and jealousy towards their closest kin. It is almost as if, they are so unsatisfied with their own life that they victimize themselves and think everyone is out to get them. And as I watched this scenario unfold with my single, 55 year old Aunt, I couldn't help but see it as a huge sign saying "NEVER BE LIKE THIS!!"

In the same sense, it reminded me of a time in my life years ago where I too felt
jealous over someone else's life. Particularly my younger brothers. I have two twin brothers who are two years younger than me and they are the ultimate naturals with women.

In high school (back when I was AFC) they would be hooking up with hoards of cute girls in my grade (and theirs) ...and I was not. You can imagine what this did to my psyche at the time. It tore it apart and ingrained a certain "life's not fair" attitude.

Fortunately, I was able to get over it immediately and snap myself back into my own reality where I was the focal point and not someone else.

And I've realized that victimization, envy, etc. are cancer for your game. A cancer that will grow and spread and limit nearly everything you want to accomplish in life whether it be meeting women or simply finding happiness.

There is always going to be someone that is smarter, better looking, stronger, more charismatic, richer than you. GET OVER IT! IT DOESN'T MEAN A FUCKING THING!!!!

So...
Welcome each day with a forgiving spirit. Forgive those who have wronged you and forgive those who haven't wronged you yet. Your wellbeing should never be dependent on others.

Feelings such as:

Jealousy
Hatred
Anger
Envy

will only cripple you in becoming an attractive man (or women). The sooner you can recognize you are doing this, the easier it will be to STOP. AND you are going to have to stop.

This effect is shown amazingly in the movie The Count of Monte Cristo where the privileged Fernand Mondego lets his jealousy manifest itself into vengeance against his childhood friend, Edmond Dontes. Without giving too much away, it inevitably leads to his own death. Perhaps this is an extreme scenario, but it nonetheless shows the incredible, negative power of victimization and wanting someone else's life.

Here is a little video montage of the movie I found on youtube:



Don't be like Mondego. Don't be like my 55 year old Aunt. Live in your world and live by your set of rules and expectations. Be happy with what you have and avoid pining over other's fortunes. Yours is the only one that really matters.

So there you have it. My Christmas ramblings! Have an amazing New Years. And on the subject, I will be posting some tips to get the girl on New Years...probably in the next two days.

Cheers
Dthomas

Labels: inner game

So I stumbled upon these questions while surfing the net. They make great questions to get to know a women. Too often, a guy will ask so many boring, yes/no questions that doesn't allow her to really reveal who she is. For example, don't ask "where do you work?" but instead ask "what was the craziest thing that happened to you at work?" By getting her to let you into her world, she 1) qualifying herself to you and 2) investing a part of herself in the interaction.


What was your most crazy, memorable dream? What about nightmare?
What was your favorite TV show as a child?
If you could travel back in time, where would you go and what year would it be?
What do you remember about your first day of school?
If you could be married anywhere in the world, where would the wedding take place?
If you could be invisible for one hour, where would you go and what would you do?
Which month of the year do you think would best describe your personality?
Where is the strangest place you’ve ever slept?
What's the habit you're proudest of breaking?
What's the longest you've gone without sleep?
would you rather catch your parents having sex or have them catch you having sex?
If the doctor told you, you had a week to live but you have unlimited money to spend, what would you do?
A genie grants you one wish, what would it be?
what do you feel is your greatest accomplishment?
what were like in middle school?

Cheers friends, I hope you enjoy these questions.
Dthomas

Labels: attraction, outer game, seduction basics

Each month I do a monthly 'Kudos' for a person in the pick up community that I feel is changing the face of the game, in a good way. For the Month Of December the winner is...

Neil Strauss

Renowned Pick Up Artist/author Neil Strauss, aka Style, has just written his follow up book on women and attraction called Rules of the Game. The book hit the shelves yesterday and from what I understand it is actually two books. One that explains the rules and the other a compilation of stories. I have not gotten my hands on the book(s) yet, but expect good things.

Note: If you haven't already checked out Neil's first PUA narrative how to book, The Game, I highly recommend it. Just a little background. The author went from lovable loser to Pick Up Guru in a little over two years. The Game documents his transformation highlighting both the pros and cons of being a ladies man.

Personally I really enjoy Neil Strauss' style both in meeting women and writing about it. He is honest. He is articulate. He retains a touch of femininity that is lacking in a lot of men who pick up women. And he truly is a nice guy. Kudos to Neil!!

Here is a recent video of Neil on Dave Navarro's Myspace talk show.

Labels: kudos, Neil Strauss, seduction

I've been studying attraction for a few years know. It may seem minuscule to many other experts or practitioners, but I must argue that I have spent a vast majority of my last three years developing and understanding this game to the point of obsession. I encourage anyone who does not know exactly what this seduction game is all about, to take a few minutes to educate yourself: What is this attraction game all about?

Labels: attraction, seduction, seduction basics

What's happening everyone. I want to just go over a specific instance that I encountered last night from a girl who was skeptical about the game. Here it is.

I was confronted by a girl last night .. a cute girl. As it turned out she was the new girlfriend of my good friend we'll call Jay who I hadn't seen in a few weeks. She seemed sweet and there was an interesting almost silent chemistry between the two. Note:This guy is a 22 year old virgin that is amazingly fit and good looking. But he has always been socially distant and has a difficult time relating to people. Nonetheless it was refreshing to see a friend who hasn't had much luck with women finally meet, attract and date a very cool one.

Anyway so we are out at the bar just chatting up a few people we had met basically shooting the shit. Wasn't in full swing sarge mode because..well..it wasn't necessary. i had a blond (previous hook up) buying me drinks who was working another guy at the same time. Been there. done that. And I was enjoying the company of my friends. Out of the blue, Jay's girlfriend brings up Attractology in a passive aggressive subtle way. Apparently Jay (who is(was up till now)virgin, AFC) told her about his disdain for the game and learning how to attract using theory and models and what not. She, like him, have never really explored what the game is, they just both "hate it" regardless because it sounds unnatural and manipulative.

And so she started firing questions basically grounded in "why are you trying to mess with fate?" She asked about routines, theories, our credentials and came back a point of "well, Jay didn't have to do any of that." Ohh god, here we go again. For some reason, so many girls like to believe they are above the systems of human nature. They believe that for some reason, the exact way their particular situation worked out was based on a uniqueness that no others have even come close to attaining. The cosmos were simply aligned at just the right time.

As much as I want this to be true( and ohh god, I wish it was)I simply know that it is not. And as beautiful, unique and amazing a lot of past relationships have been, I still realize that there are evolutionary and biological undercurrents that permeate every part of them. Don't peg me wrong here. I'm not a robot. I'm empathetic. I love. I fall in love (too often probably). And I am more sensitive than I let people see. But it doesn't mean that I can deny evolution and science. Just like the game. We can choose to know about it or choose not to. But we have to accept it's existence. It is real. It does work. So that means you can either wait in patient frustration and be lonely or you can learn the game and attract women. I don't want to speak for everybody. But for me, luck is only preparation meeting opportunity. I can't wait for something that might happen or might not. I make things happen.

And so it went with our heavy, deep, psychological conversation on attraction. I didn't feel obligated the least bit to succumb to her demands for information. I answered them by choice. I find it intriguing and rewarding to enlighten people. And so I answered her adequately, and like every other single girl and guy who takes the time to learn what we're really teaching and researching. Her skeptical presumptions began to dissipate as her understanding increased. She learned that we aren't just out to "hook up" with girls. She learned we are good, fun loving people with noble intentions.

And she learned that we know more about the game of attraction then she had ever considered. By the end of our 20 minute conversation, her shield had been lowered. What's funny is that I've had these conversations before and they all end this way. Yet again and again some women find it so hard to accept that there was anything but fate involved in them being with their partner. I used to have this naivety and at times I wish I still did. But knowing the reasons "why" certain patterns emerge in attraction, flirting and dating, it's hard to look away.

Rather than accept that some guys get girls and others guys don't, I know, have seen, and experienced different. I know the game works and I know why it works. And it has enriched my life greatly.


---Happy holidays everyone. Don't eat too much. Did you know that the average American gains 7-10 pounds from the time Thanksgiving starts until new years? Crazy. So if your like me and enjoy these holidays as much as I do, work out so you can keep the pounds off. Cheers!
-Dthomas

Labels: attraction, field report, seduction basics

what's up ladies, fellas, and anyone else who falls in between
So it's been... hmmm a week I think. I can't really remember but anyway i just wanted to catch everyone up on my activities. This last week was so busy I barely had any time for myself. Sometimes I love the feeling of being productive and knowing I am moving forward rather than standing still. Other times I wish I could just sit home and do absolutely nothing! Just indulge in my reality, and thoughts and have a calm night of nothing. Unfortunately this last week didn't provide such a night but some interesting things did happen.

On Wednesday I met a super cool girl named Kelly. She plays soccer competitively and when I played with her and some other people, she was easily as good as I if not better. For those of you who don't know, I am a retired collegiate soccer player who hasn't really played competitively for nearly four years. I used to be good but nowadays it's a different story. Nonetheless, when I go out a play in big co-ed groups, my lengthy experience with the sport provides a nice crutch for attraction especially when everyone is terrible. You are almost slotted as the alpha male leader without demonstrating much more than you are a strong athlete (or used to be). So after much apha-ing and playing, i noticed this girl who was also good. I introduced myself directly with a big smile and complimented her skills but told her she was no match for me. It was a bold move. But I am a bold person. The rest of the game there was all kinds of flirtatious banter between the two of us. Just that and I could tell there was chemistry between us. At the end I took her number and told her I would give her a call the next time a game was put together. Not profound but really most of the little things that happen in attraction are never profound. They are subtle and just seem to unfold.

On Thursday, we went out with some guys. And i am going to be completely honest. MY GAME was utter SHIT. Yes every Pick up artists has his off nights and Thursday was mine. The first few warm up sets went well but the the girls we were chatting up, were far from attractive. Potential friends yes....lovers, girlfriends.... Not a chance. We bounce to a different venue and I start approaching but like I said, my game was weak. I let the conversations lull, i couldn't find the beat on the dance floor and my head was in clouds.. Generally, I can self correct in an instance but tonight I wasn't able to. And I went home at closing...dick in hand. Hey..it happens!

The prof had closed that night and was heading home with his girl to her house. I hopped a cab with some AFCs I've been recently helping. Surprisingly, they were still moderately impressed with my game. I didn't know what they were thinking.. but fuck it. My standards are high for an outing, even though I try to go without standards all together. I guess you sort of have to walk that "try to not try" line. Well tonight I'm off to a cocktail party with some friends and fellow PUAs. There are going to be many many ladies there and I am confident I can charm the pants off of them. Happy holidays, friends, lovers, everyone.
-Dthomas

Labels: field report

What's up crew
Dthomas here to catch you up on my recent activities ..


So Saturday night rolls around and my cell has been blowing up like crazy. I wasn't really planning on going out because the previous twos night were quite 'eventful' and long. I won't get into details but you can be assured, my game was on point and the I got the end results to prove it. Anyway, so I finally decide to answer a call from my associate The Professor who had just met these gorgeous foreign girls from Westminster, England who were here for 4 days en route for Vancouver, Canada.


I laugh and say "here we go again."

Strangely enough, the prof was approached by this these 3 girls (and one guy) in the mall of all places and asked about the nightlife here. They struck up a conversation and talked for a few minutes until the Prof finally decided to bring the whole group to 'show them a night on the town." Seriously though, and I've really noticed this lately, once you have gotten a lot the inner game worked out and you appear receptive and friendly, people will just come talk to you. And if your trustworthy and fun, they will want to stay around you.

It isn't always the predator, hunter with his "approach everything with two legs" attitude that gets the girl. Sometimes, just living in your reality and being that friendly, approachable person that can get you results. Anyways, I'm starting to ramble.

So ok, these 3 girls and one dude, come over to our house with a fifth of jagermiester that prof had picked up at the liquor store. As it turns out, two of these girls are really hot (both Brunettes)and one was average. And they had accents which made them 5 times as hot....not even joking. And as it turned out the guy was only a good friend of the girls and was a mad cool guy.

We started drinking and playing a fun game called "Catch Phrase." This game is the shit by the way. If you haven't played it, you are seriously missing out. And the cool thing about it was that the game requires equal teams and since there were 5 of us I offered to pair up with my target, so that were pretty much the same team. This game led way to tons of teasing, kino, little push/pull battles and well teamwork. By the end of the game she was sitting on my lap, holding hands with me, and basically giving me those obvious SOIs.

After the game, I tried the roman soul gaze on her. It has been a while since I have used this one and I don't know why. This little game is so fun and deeply embedded, that by the time I was done with it, I could nearly stick out my hand and touch the electricity between us. At this point, I decided it was time to kiss close. Nothing fancy I just simply said "you are amazing, come here!" I then pulled away and said "that's all you get for now." She laughed and made some remark about "American guys!"

Prof was getting mad amounts attraction from his target but he had the additional challenge of making the guy and other girl feel comfortable and not isolated. I rarely say this....but we needed more dudes at my house. My target was all over me, So I took her hand and told her I wanted to show her my room. We went up to my room and I let a few candles and played her some of my new favorite music. You all should check out Thievery Corporation. They are real chill and provide perfect "getting it on" music.

Anyway we kissed more and talked more. She told me about England and I talked my passion for English Premier league soccer. More kissing. More talking. Finally I decided to escalate. Off came the top. Off came the jeans. And then the LMR kicked in when I started to "feel around" down there. She said something along the lines of "you are just trying to have sex aren't you." I looked her in the eyes and assured her "I never put out on the first date, don't worry we can't take this too far." It didn't really make sense but it provided enough cognitive confusion, for her to just let it go. I just figured she had to throw at least some token resistance to feel good about it. She doesn't want to feel like a slut. And so it went.

Bottoms come off and we switch positions dry humping. GOD I love the female body. Thinking about it now just makes me smile. Nothing is more beautiful than humans in their most primitive clothing. We dry hump more. Note: I like to take things slow. If things are going to happen, then they will. But never force it. It takes all the fun out of it. BUT and this is a big fucking BUT!!!! If you have an obstacle who is adamant about getting his friends back their hotel it can be a problem. AND it was. Just as things we were getting heavy, I get a knock on my door. "hey Emma, we have to go. I"m sobor. Meet me down here in 5 minutes." This ladies and gents is a PUAs worst nightmare. I think I could even feel the pain of blue balls setting in when he said that.

So I did what anyone would have done. I pulled on her logical cards. "I think he is still drunk. he shouldn't drive. We have two big comfy couches they can sleep on. It's no problem , we can give you a ride in the morning." She went out and talked to him and her other friend for a second and came back and said that she and her friends had to get up real early and her guy friend didn't want to waste the 140 bucks they had spent on the hotel. I was going to try to reason more with her, but I could tell by looking at her that she was already out of the mood. AHHHHH. And so she gave me her email and told me to email her. And they departed our house around 2AM.

In retrospect, I am planning on emailing this girl. She was gorgeous and insanely cool. And she had a hotttt accent. OK, so things didn’t go quite as planned, but fortunately my expectations for the night were ummm well nilch and they didn't end that way. Keep your plans open and never get locked into to doing one thing. Who knows, maybe something like this will happen to you. Happy holidays friends. -dthomas

Labels: field report

I've been thinking a lot lately about the term "Seduction" and the feeling it evokes from people, especially women. It's no wonder; define Seduction on google and you get [enticing someone astray from right behavior] and [may refer to an act that the other may later regret and/or would normally not want to do]. That's a horrible association.

People who understand this community, however, would give the word Seduction a completely different definition, one of creating a real attraction between a man and woman, for real reasons. A pick up artist never tricks anyone.

That said, the choice for people of this community is to adopt a different word for Seduction [i.e. art of attraction] or to make it a point of ours to redefine the word for everyone. I choose the latter.

Prof

Labels: seduction, seduction basics

What's up everybody,
Dthomas here
Due to my random ADD infused mind, I have no idea where this blog will go. REaders beware this may blow your fucking mind into a whole new dimension of understanding. Welcome to my world, a shire of possibility and..well ..............females. Going out is becoming strange lately. I can't help but feel there are always eyes on me, watching to see which girls I approach, who I am talking to. It's fucking ridiculous. I'm not even famous and yet I hate the mini fame. This game doesn't require fame and quite frankly I don't need it nor do I want it. My status is internal and independent. The second I start feeling my self worth being tied to the caliber of girl I'm talking to, or the people I'm surrounded by, I have to take a step back and breathe. I didn't get in this game to impress. I got in this to meet amazing women and people for that matter. And I have. There is such an emphasis on sex by so many pick up artists. But let me share something with you and this is getting down to the nitty gritty. When you get and have sex often, you realize it is often short lived and never quite as good as fantasize it to be. But wait, I'm supposed to be promoting a seduction site where it's getting laid, getting ass, getting it fast...yay yay yay. Well sorry to disappoint you ladies and gents. This Pick up artist IS NOT just in it for the sex. Sex is a mere bonus for me. I get it when i want it and that is great. But really for me, this game is about making connections with women. I am equally satisfied with an amazing, emotionally charged conversation with a girl as I am having sex with her. And yes yes, I must add, and I'm sure you already know, when you have that deep, amazing connection with someone it makes the sex sooooo much better. But really now, sex is not the end all and be all of life and why so many gurus boast their numbers is fucking stupid and pointless. A number is merely a way of saying " how cool am I?" My numbers are up there, maybe not as high as some of the greats, but I never tell people how many girls I've slept with nor do I ask students and friends how many they have been with. It validates the fact that sex to a lot of people is not for mere "pleasure" but for gaining status among peers. Do you see Collin Farrell, Tommy Lee, or Jack Nicholson boasting about their numbers? NO! They don't have to because they don't need to be validated. That is the kind of status I strive to have minus the celebdom. And no, I'm not there yet. Like every single person in this game, I feel I must "prove" myself at times. I'm not perfect and I would by lying if I said that I never made any mistakes in the field....even now. NO, just like you friends, I strive to better myself yet embrace myself at the same time. I walk a thin line. But this is where it has to end right now.. But you my friends have had your first glimpse at Dthomas. A pick-up artist. A psychologist. And a friend. Stay tuned for more bloggage. cheers
-Dthomas

Labels: seduction basics

Since I first began exploring the pick up community, and with reflection on personal experiences, I have found one set of described attributes that as guys we must know about and be working towards.

I cannot claim any credit for this described list (credit Niel Strauss) but would be doing a disservice to everyone if I did not take the time to talk about "Las Vegas" attributes. These are eight traits that you want to have, as they are attractive to women. If you possess some of these traits already, excellent, focus on your weakest traits, there is always room for improvement. Take your time, these traits are not to be immediately obtained, simply being aware of them is very much the first step.

Looks
Look help, but being well groomed is more important.
Are you part of a "tribe" she would want to visit.

Adaptability
Humor
Intelligence
Spontaneity
Non-adaptable guys don't get laid!

Strength
Not just physical, it's the ability to protect her.


Value
Standing out, demonstrating value

Emotional Connection
Arousal
Sensitivity (Showing her contrasting sides)

Goals
Ambition
Where you're going on five years and how
Establish an identity

Authenticity
Inner game
Congruency with yourself

Self-worth
High status behavior
Non-neediness

To watch Niel explain these attributes for himself, watch Las Vegas Attributes

Cheers.

Labels: inner game, seduction