Does Size Matter? - Being right in the middle of the spectrum, I've always been curious. I'm no porn star but I've never had any complaints. Nonetheless, a lot of guys want to know the answer to the all telling question "DOES SIZE MATTER?" So I decided to do some research

AS it turns out, size DOES IN FACT matter. But surprisingly 'bigger' isn't always better. In fact, average might even be too big for one women while "incredibly large" might be just right for another. Dr Pezzi, describes in detail the extent at which penis size is less important than the actually 'fit' in the women. He emphasizes that it takes two to tango and the female parts are just as important as there male counterparts in creating pleasurable sex.

What is even crazier is that there is 10 times more variation in vaginal size than there is in penis. Some can barely fit a pencil while others may be able to take a baseball bat.

IT GETS BETTER!!

Women have way more control over vaginal tightness than men do over penis size. In fact, women have the ability to dramatically increase their tightness on a long term basis using what are called Kegel's exercises. Kegel's exercises increase the depth of the outer tight zone of the vagina via thickening what are called the pubococcygeal muscles.

Thinking of mentioning this to your girlfriend? If so, don't forget to remind her this:
Doing Kegel's exercises benefit the women as well. Because of the increase in tightness and deepness, the penis is better able to stimulate the sensitive outer third of the vagina and the G-spot.

SO GUYS, if a women ever tells you, you are lacking in the endowment area, tell her that the problem is half her fault and that she should probably start doing Kegel's exercises ASAP.

FYI- The average penis size is decreasing. Years ago, the average penis size was 6.5 inches, then after than the average went down to 6.25 inches. Then the average went down to 6 inches. Less than decade ago the average size was 5.72 inches. And TODAY, the average size is 5.25 inches.

My first reaction to this was WHAT THE FUCK????? and HOW THE HELL DID THIS HAPPEN??

Well there is a good reason...
As it turns out there are a variety of estrogens (phytoestrogens, xenoestrogens, and exogenous estrogens) that men are now being exposed to. As a result, the penis can shrink or fail to grow as much as it should.

So fellows, try to stay away from any product, food, or drug that has an abundance of these...
Phytoestrogens
Xenoestrogens
Exogenous Estrogens

Cheers.

Labels: psychology, study

I found this great article in Time magazine on attraction.

There was some really interesting stuff in it

Like did you know.....
Strippers who are ovulating make on average $70 an hour.
Strippers who are menstruating make on average $35 dollars an hour.
Strippers who are neither ovulating nor menstruating make on average $50.

There are a series of genes that control the human immune system. Of those genes there is the major histocompatibility complex (MHC) that influences tissue rejection. Scientists have found that couples who have a very similar MHC are more likely to have a miscarriage than couples whose MHC is not as similar.

Studies have also shown that mice can smell each others MHC, and will avoid mating with other too similar MHC mice.

Good stuff.
Until next time
-Dthomas

Labels: attraction, PUA, strippers

Have you ever had this happen?


A few years ago before I had learned anything about human attraction, I had a girlfriend who I adored. At the time, I harbored the idea that being nice and doing nice things amplified attraction, connection and intimacy in a relationship. I was taught to be cordial and to treat women like queens and that would be enough. And so my relationship went fine for a few months. She would do nice things for me and I would predictably reciprocate every nice thing she did by doing something just a little bit nicer. When you harbor the idea "she should be treated like a queen" it's hard not to over do the acts of kindness. One day after I had bought her flowers and a new necklace, I got the "I think we should see other people" spew. I was dumb founded and heart broken wondering "what did I do wrong?" After studying this attraction game and learning about basic human psychology I realized it wasn’t what I did. It was what I did too much of.

What is happening here and why is being "too nice" a bad thing?

Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with doing something special for someone you care about. But more and more guys are being raised only by their mothers who instill a "treat your women like a queen" attitude in their sons. I was one of these guys. And what our mothers have done has taught us how to gain affection rather than attraction. In other words, they are teaching us to be good husbands and providers rather than attractive males.

SO once you have a women attracted to you and you want to keep it that way, there are a few things you must understand.

Reciprocating acts of love/ nice things need not be immediate. In fact they are better off being spontaneous and unpredictable rather than decadent and frequent. There is nothing wrong with letting someone know you care about them. But too many nice things can kill attraction.

And doing too many nice things is predictable. The key word here is predictable. When something you do becomes common and predictable, it's value naturally decreases. Just like if you were to win $1000 a week for the rest of your life. The first few weeks might be very exciting but after a while, the novelty would wear and it would simply become the norm. Why do you think so many Parisians pay such little attention to their beloved Louvre Museum and their massive Eiffel tower. They are always going to be there. They aren't going anywhere. So they don't need to pay any attention to them. And this concept can be generalized.

We tend to put things in the back of our minds when they become predictable.


Another good example...

Have you ever noticed a terrible odor that is almost unbearable to smell. Yet after a few minutes the smell seemed to have disappeared. This is the same principle. The odor didn’t disappear. Your mind simply put it in the peripheral, so you could focus your attention on more important things.

Also, when you are overly nice, doing a lot of nice things frequently, an added pressure arises in the women. She is going to think "god, this guy really really is into me. Am I as into him as he is into me?" And that discrepancy in the way she feels is going to create guilt. And because we rarely like to make ourselves out to the bad guy, we tend to put the blame elsewhere aka it was the guys fault. And this will transpire in to contempt and those little things that she found so attractive in the beginning are now driving her crazy. Until she gets to the point where she can't keep hiding her feelings, she will break things off with you.


In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with doing nice things for a women. But doing nice things in a predictable and frequent fashion will have a detrimental effect and ultimately kill attraction.

So don't overdo the acts of kindness

Understand the niceness only has the ability to create affection rather than attraction.

You cannot "buy" a women's heart

Being "nice" does not mean you need to conform to her opinions, ideals, morals, or perspectives

Being "nice" does not mean you need to stray from being you

cheers ladies and gentleman.
Until next time...

-Dthomas

I'm going to do something a bit different in this blog. Instead of talking about seduction and attraction directly, this blog will focus more on the seduction periphery which you will come to learn has stronger attraction roots than you think.

Happiness and personal wellbeing

Part of being an attractive and seductive man is being entirely content with who you are. Happiness is rarely mentioned in seduction blogs or websites and this fascinates me. How can we possibly expect to meet and attract, date, marry, or seduce women when we are not happy with ourselves and our own lives?

Recent studies suggest there are a few ways to make you happier with who you are and your life.

1)A study at University of Texas Southwestern concluded that the sole use of EXERCISE significantly reduced depression in 50 percent in individuals who participated in 30-minute aerobic exercise sessions three times a week.

This result astounded psychologists and scientists who found nearly the exact result when treating depression with anti-depressant medication and cognitive therapy. It should come as no surprise exercise is more natural than taking drugs.

This point is illustrated beautifully by one of Harvard's most popular Professors Al Ben Shaher. In one of his lectures, Shaher explains the importance of exercise suggesting that it is not merely an anti-depressant but rather what we were born to do. And if you think about it, he is dead right.

For thousands and thousands of years humans have been hunters, gatherers, builders, etc. We had to be active. If we were not, we wouldn't survive. It was as simple as that. And because we have constantly been moving and active, that need has been genetically ingrained in us.

Think about it...

For no longer than 100 years has technology allowed us to STOP being active to still provide and survive in the world we live in.

So you want to feel happier, Exercise at least 2-3 times a week

2) Meditation. I don't want to get too spiritual on you here so I will say this: meditation has been scientifically proven to change your brain chemistry in a positive, beneficial way. To be more specific, one recent research project found in an 8 week study of meditation significant changes in the left pre-frontal cortex which, if you have any background in biopsychology, you know is the location where positive feelings are derived.

I know what you are thinking. I don't have time to meditate. I'm too busy.
If you can dedicate 20 minutes of your day as "ME TIME" than you should be fine.
If you think about it (15 hours awake=45 20 minutes). ALl you need to do is dedicate 1/45 of your day to meditation. This very doable to even the busiest person

Not sure how to meditate? check out http://www.how-to-meditate.org/
An alternative to pure meditation is yoga. SO if you choose not to meditate, take a yoga class.

3)Appreciation
It has been claimed that you are never actually living until you know you are dying. Though an interesting dichotomy, I too have heard of and met people who see the world differently when they know their time is limited. The air smells a bit better. The sun shines a bit brighter. Everything they sense becomes all that more important. Why can't we all feel this enlightenment on a regular basis? Well we can , we simply have to appreciate what we have.

My advice to you is to write down every night 4 or 5 things you are grateful for. Study after study reveals this technique constantly raises the level of happiness in ones life. It doesn't matter if they are the same things every night. Still write them down.

I know this seemed like a very unrelated post to be on a seduction blog but understand that the power of being content and happy with one's self is the ultimate attractive quality.

Until next time,
-Dthomas

Happy New Years Everyone!
I hope all of your holidays were as amazing as mine. I apologize for not posting sooner but I have been so busy working on Attractology, traveling and networking.
AS for my New Years, I spent it down in Portland, Oregon with my younger twin brothers and a few other friends. I won't say too much about it other than it was fan-fucking-tastic and way too much fun.

If you want you can check out a little snippet video I made while I was learning how to use the movie editor on my computer, here it is. Note the footage reflects maybe 1% of what happened on new years. Still fun stuff.



Now that we have entered 2008, it is that time of the year to make those resolutions
Let's talk a little bit about practical New Years Resolutions that will help your game and will stick with you for longer than just a couple of weeks.

1) Tap into one new social scene
It could be a yoga center, salsa class, book club, political campaign, improv class, gym,. Basically any place other than the usual. Get involved and don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. You will be amazed at how many single women there are that do other things beside go to the bars.

2)Think Addition!! Hopefully you have accumulated at least a little cash from the holiday festivities. So go out and buy yourself a one new unique item to wear that justly represents your "style." If you want to go a step further, you can completely re vamp your look. Fashion won't make or break seduction but it can give you a boost.

In terms of actual pick up mindset

1) Make an effort to live in the present moment all day/ every day. There is an amazing book out there called Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle that popularized this concept. In a nutshell it describes how our minds' attempt to overthink things which consequently holds us back from living up to our potential. I can't give this book enough kudos. If you haven't picked it up yet, I highly suggest you do. Nonetheless, if you neglect to, make an effort at least to avoid over-thinking about the past and present. There is only this moment and nothing else matters.

2)Make an effort to make friendly conversation with at least one stranger a day. It should be 3 or 4 but I understand how busy peoples lives can get with work and what not. It can be anyone, male or female, hottie or old lady. just as long as you are working on being friendly and extroverted, you are golden.


I purposefully cut it off here. For these mindsets to stick it is important to not put too much on your plate. Simplification is a cornerstone for meeting women.