Here is an excerpt I found in last weeks Newsweek.

"When asked to estimate how many sexual partners their peers had had during the past school year, college students guessed three times the number of partners they'd had. "Even people involved in extreme behavior think their friends are more extreme," says Kathleen Bogle, a uthor of "Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships" on Campus." The study also found that for male students, the number of sexual partners in the previous year has dropped, from 2.1 in 2000 to 1.6 in 2006. According to a Centers for Disease Control survey, the number of ninth- to 12th-grade students who have had sex dropped almost 10 percent, to fewer than half of respondents, between 1991 and 2005. And a 2001 study found that 39 percent of freshman college women were virgins, and 31 percent of those women still hadn't had sex by senior year. In 2006, nearly half of Harvard undergrads who responded to a survey reported they had never had intercourse."

here is a link to the full article Campus Sexperts


Wow, I don't even know what to think of these numbers. I can only hope that the guys who partake in these studies get involved in the Community and learn how to pull.
Another note: if you want to get laid, don't go Harvard! Actually, fuck that. If you get into Harvard, go there BUT LEARN SOME FUCKING GAME! Enough said.

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Lets Just Be Friends.

A relationship stuck in friend zone is based on having comfort and trust with a woman, but lacking any 'chemistry' or attraction. Some call this a platonic relationship and for some guys, it's a reoccurring nightmare. It usually goes like this: You meet a girl and you two talk. You find out you have a lot in common and you really feel like you can trust her and talk to her about anything. You find her physically attractive and become attracted to her. This goes on for some time, you wait to have a physical connection. Finally you try to take it to the next level and she says "lets just be friends".

In this situation, the development of emotional compatibility and trust happened first but she never developed attraction, similar to the relationships she has with her girlfriends and relatives. Building and creating comfort with a woman is great, but you must also be building attraction.

I can remember talking and hanging out with this girl. She was beautiful, we had a ton in common and we would hang out all the time. I liked her a lot. And so finally I brought up "being more than just friends" to her. I instantly got the reply "I think we should just be friends." I can honestly say it was heartbreaking, humbling, and an out right blow to my ego. But thankfully, I finally realized what was happening.

I never took the time to build any attraction. I never gave her those feelings of "chemistry." She saw me as she did any of her girl friends. And when I finally sprung it on her, she realized that more than friends meant a change in the relationship. A change that disagreed with her feelings. As a result, she rejected me by giving me the "let's just be friends" spew.

It is an uphill battle to reverse her feelings for you. Let's avoid getting there in the first place. If you often get stuck in friends zone, we've got lots of great articles on how to create attraction first and get her craving you.

Some Helpful Articles:
Cat String Theory
Why Nice Guys Finish Last
Sexual Tension & Mixed Signals

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So lately I have been noticing how many ridiculous Pick Up acronyms are popping up in the attraction community. Don't get me wrong I'm no saint by any stretch of the imagination. Even our site has an extensive glossary with many of these acronyms. But the more I think about it, the sillier it seems.

Just recently I caught myself speaking in this geek code (GC) to someone who knew nothing about pick up (NOOB). They asked me why the hell I used so many abbreviated terms. This was a really good point and I didn't have a good answer. In thinking about it, there is nothing wrong with simplifying language and making it easier for students. But in the same sense, I can't help but think that many of these pick up artist gurus or wanna be gurus are patenting SPUAAS in hopes to make their mark on the overall community and also to sound 'smart.'

Let's get real. There are a million ways to say the same fucking thing. And putting some snappy new title behind a basic human behavior may make it sound more like a legitimate science but really it is completely unnecessary. Just because I observe something doesn't mean I have the right to MAFA (make a fucking acronym). And if I do MAFA, it had better be a common, legitimate pattern or contingency that happens in this game. There is no need for an abbreviation of 3 or 4 Non-Important Words (NIW). Ok, this was kind of a rant but it gives you something to think about.

Note: the acronyms used in this post are fictional and were used to make a point. At no time, should they ever be used again unless it's to mock the usage of acronyms.

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A friend of mine, an attractive woman who I've known for some time, and I recently went to a business party. I invited her because she is good company and socially intelligent so she wouldn't need to be with me constantly. The people there we're great and I introduced her to several friends of mine. We both had a good time.

Afterward, talking about the party, I asked her:
"Who stood out in your mind, what conversation did you enjoy the most?"
She quickly responded "I had a great conversation with Kirk Highland"
"What does he do?" I asked.
"Well, I don't know" she answered.
"Where is he from?"
"Hm, I don't know"
"What is he interested in?"
"We didn't talk about his interests"
"What did you talk about?" I finally asked.
"Well, we talked about me"

Women enjoy talking about themselves. When she is telling you about herself, she is investing her time in you. Conversation savvy people know to invest time in listening skills. A great conversation is the vehicle for attraction building routines and establishing a connection.

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