It easy when first getting into this to read everything there is to read.  That’s what I did when I began, it started with Neil Strauss’ The Game and lead to an interest in David DeAngelo, posts on Fast Seduction and now have I accumulated material from most other Guru’s; some of which has been useful information.  (Side note: We’ve been compiling some guru interviews to share but that’s for another post.)

 

See, I approached learning about attraction with a fairly solid belief system intact but also an open mind willing to learn from experience.  I feel both of these were critical for success.  Sometimes what I was reading would challenge my belief system and when this would happen I would have three options.

1. Instantly accept what I was reading over my own belief system
2. Instantly accept my own belief over what I was reading
3. Go out with an educated open mind and learn from the experience

I continue to chose number three.

 

Bluntly put, guys that don’t succeed are either too gullible or too stubborn to go out and challenge their belief system with the experience necessary to progress.  Success will come from the combination of learning AND going out and being social, networking and leading a dynamic life.

 

To improve you must understand that progression will happen by reading but also doing.  Here’s how.  Read enough material to understand and challenge some of your ideas and beliefs without getting overwhelmed.  Go out and practice making note of what gets good results, and  then when you hit a sticking point come back and figure out what you can do to improve next time WITHOUT dwelling on the negative.  Mastery in any subject is a series of plateaus, persistence is essential.

 

That’s it for now, but as we move into 2009 no time is better to set some expectations and real goals.  Here are some goal setting tips I was just reviewing for myself, I find it valuable to set both personal and career related goals.

• Determine what you want to achieve
• Put the goal in writing
• Set a time deadline for the attainment of the goal
• Develop a plan and work the plan
• Visualize a successful result
• Maintain a positive attitude
• Measure your progress and make adjustments, where needed
• Persist until you reach your goal

Cheers.

Labels: attraction, inner game, PUA, seduction basics, sticking points

Here is an excerpt I found in last weeks Newsweek.

"When asked to estimate how many sexual partners their peers had had during the past school year, college students guessed three times the number of partners they'd had. "Even people involved in extreme behavior think their friends are more extreme," says Kathleen Bogle, a uthor of "Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships" on Campus." The study also found that for male students, the number of sexual partners in the previous year has dropped, from 2.1 in 2000 to 1.6 in 2006. According to a Centers for Disease Control survey, the number of ninth- to 12th-grade students who have had sex dropped almost 10 percent, to fewer than half of respondents, between 1991 and 2005. And a 2001 study found that 39 percent of freshman college women were virgins, and 31 percent of those women still hadn't had sex by senior year. In 2006, nearly half of Harvard undergrads who responded to a survey reported they had never had intercourse."

here is a link to the full article Campus Sexperts


Wow, I don't even know what to think of these numbers. I can only hope that the guys who partake in these studies get involved in the Community and learn how to pull.
Another note: if you want to get laid, don't go Harvard! Actually, fuck that. If you get into Harvard, go there BUT LEARN SOME FUCKING GAME! Enough said.

Labels: PUA, seduction

So lately I have been noticing how many ridiculous Pick Up acronyms are popping up in the attraction community. Don't get me wrong I'm no saint by any stretch of the imagination. Even our site has an extensive glossary with many of these acronyms. But the more I think about it, the sillier it seems.

Just recently I caught myself speaking in this geek code (GC) to someone who knew nothing about pick up (NOOB). They asked me why the hell I used so many abbreviated terms. This was a really good point and I didn't have a good answer. In thinking about it, there is nothing wrong with simplifying language and making it easier for students. But in the same sense, I can't help but think that many of these pick up artist gurus or wanna be gurus are patenting SPUAAS in hopes to make their mark on the overall community and also to sound 'smart.'

Let's get real. There are a million ways to say the same fucking thing. And putting some snappy new title behind a basic human behavior may make it sound more like a legitimate science but really it is completely unnecessary. Just because I observe something doesn't mean I have the right to MAFA (make a fucking acronym). And if I do MAFA, it had better be a common, legitimate pattern or contingency that happens in this game. There is no need for an abbreviation of 3 or 4 Non-Important Words (NIW). Ok, this was kind of a rant but it gives you something to think about.

Note: the acronyms used in this post are fictional and were used to make a point. At no time, should they ever be used again unless it's to mock the usage of acronyms.

Labels: community, PUA, seduction basics, terms

Labels: art of touch, kino, outer game, PUA, seduction, sticking points

I found this great article in Time magazine on attraction.

There was some really interesting stuff in it

Like did you know.....
Strippers who are ovulating make on average $70 an hour.
Strippers who are menstruating make on average $35 dollars an hour.
Strippers who are neither ovulating nor menstruating make on average $50.

There are a series of genes that control the human immune system. Of those genes there is the major histocompatibility complex (MHC) that influences tissue rejection. Scientists have found that couples who have a very similar MHC are more likely to have a miscarriage than couples whose MHC is not as similar.

Studies have also shown that mice can smell each others MHC, and will avoid mating with other too similar MHC mice.

Good stuff.
Until next time
-Dthomas

Labels: attraction, PUA, strippers