Here's a video I just ran across again of David DeAngelo interviewing the Wing Girls, a company of women who help guys meet women. Sure, some of their advice is oversimplified but I find a lot of value in listening to the other perspective.

Labels: approaching, attraction, David DeAngelo, Wing Girls

I've noticed that over the last couple of years where I've really dedicated a good chunk of my time to understanding and applying social dynamics - that I will go through game cycles. And maybe I'm all alone here, but this is kind of how it happens..

The cycle starts with me doing all cold approaches. I don't necessarily like doing cold approaches. In fact, I hate it. It requires way too much work. But it is a necessity if you want to get good. And if you follow the 3 second rule, ditch the ego and live in the present moment, it's not overly painful. After some time and as a result of doing a ton of cold approaches and being social all the time, I'll start to cultivate a larger social circle. And consequently, after a while, I'll find myself surrounded by a ton of people that I know. Doing cold approaches at this point seems counterintuitive because I am surrounded by so many women whenever I'm out. This is good and bad. It's good in the sense that I have a consistent pool of women to pull from. A side note: Social circle game is a little different than cold approach game. It's slower and doesn't have to be quite as proactive and 'performancy'(if that were a word). But it also can be bad for your approach game. You can get comfortable/lazy and become rusty.

In my case, real rusty! But, this is where you have to get back on the horse, dust the cobwebs off your openers, DHVs, and stacks and get back out there and start approaching. And yes, the first few sets might be a bit rough but that's to be expected.

The good news: I have just recently had to brush up on my cold approach game and the interesting thing Ive found is that it doesn't take quite as much effort to get back on the horse as it did to learn to ride. Of course, it still requires a bit of work and the removal of a few bad habits that I accumulated along the way. But it wasn't as tough as it was to get down initially. The foundation stays laid. THANK GOD!

Ideally, I should be able to balance a large social circle while still doing cold approaches. But who knows, maybe in a few months I'll be doing strictly social circle game again. Damn laziness!

However, my laziness hasn't been entirely useless. I've just finished a short book on Facebook game - which is par none the easiest and laziest way to get girls. I'm not even joking. You don't even need to get off your couch. You should get off your couch! But if you choose not to, there is still hope for you. Anyway, I can't say too much more about it other than I AM SO EXCITED to finally get to share this information. It’s been over 6 months in the making. Stay posted for the official release!!!!

Labels: approaching, attraction, create attraction, seduction, sticking points

Heres some food for thought-

One of the things I've noticed lately is that even some naturally charismatic, good looking, 'player' guys still get the initial 'bitch shield' from women. I've noticed this especially to be the case if they are new to the bar and club scene. I think these guys forget that the clubs and bars are a completely different animal than the 'social circle' fratboy game they were used to before.

But there is a big difference in how guys like these handle the bitch shield compared to the 'average' guy. Average guys are generally trying to meet women to have a good time but with Attractive guys it is completely different. Attractive guys are already having a good time and their emotional state is never dependent on other people.

Therefore, when an average guy gets the bitch shield it shifts his emotional state (good to bad), making him angry, to which he responds by calling her some name and then walking off. However, when the attractive guy gets the bitch shield, he is emotionally unaffected and doesn't allow the women to get it his head. Strangely enough, it is that emotional stability and confidence that separates this guy from the other guys and often makes her attracted to him.

I've had a women say to me 'You are fucking ugly, I shouldn't even be talking to you.' Most guys here would have shattered and walked off with their tails between their legs. But I did not. Instead, I playfully and confidently responded "come on now, can you really resist this smile (dorkiest smile I could do)?" And from then on, it was on between us. The girl that told me I was ugly ended up being a sweet , great girl who eventually did become attracted to me.

And the better you get at this attraction game, the more you come to realize that there really aren't too many bitches but rather a lot women who 'act' bitchy to get what they want or to get you to do something. Just like how a small child throws a temper tantrum and instantly gets what he wants, beautiful women operate on the same principle: doing what works. And they will do what works until they realize that it won't work on you.

Hold your ground. Have boundaries when it comes to behavior from women and people in general. Don't get mad if a women you just met is a bitch to you. It lets her know that she has power over you and that you are weak. If you can't stand up to her, how would you ever be able to protect her if she was dating you? Trust me, women are always testing you and one the ways they test you is by being a bitch. This is just something to think about.

Labels: approaching, inner game, seduction basics

Labels: accomplishment intro, approaching, attraction, seduction basics

Labels: approach anxiety, approaching, seduction, seduction basics, sticking points