A friend of mine, an attractive woman who I've known for some time, and I recently went to a business party. I invited her because she is good company and socially intelligent so she wouldn't need to be with me constantly. The people there we're great and I introduced her to several friends of mine. We both had a good time.

Afterward, talking about the party, I asked her:
"Who stood out in your mind, what conversation did you enjoy the most?"
She quickly responded "I had a great conversation with Kirk Highland"
"What does he do?" I asked.
"Well, I don't know" she answered.
"Where is he from?"
"Hm, I don't know"
"What is he interested in?"
"We didn't talk about his interests"
"What did you talk about?" I finally asked.
"Well, we talked about me"

Women enjoy talking about themselves. When she is telling you about herself, she is investing her time in you. Conversation savvy people know to invest time in listening skills. A great conversation is the vehicle for attraction building routines and establishing a connection.

Labels: inner game, listening skills, outer game, seduction basics